Your Timeline is Messing Up Your Child’s Success
You are overestimating what your child can do in a year and underestimating what your child can achieve in a decade. Think about that for a minute.
This is inspired by a Tony Robbins quote: “Most people overestimate what they can do in a year and underestimate what they can do in two or three decades.”
I think this applies to parents of children with special needs.
You want changes NOW, and I would be the first person to support that. However, if your big goal is to be accomplished in a year, you may be setting yourself and your child up for failure.
For example, let’s say your goal is to see your child walk independetly. If you give yourself a decade to accomplish that massive feat, then all of a sudden, the pressure lifts off of you. You can keep that goal in mind and work towards it.
The important thing is setbacks won’t be such a massive problem. Right now, setbacks are not only setting you back but also putting you in massive emotional turmoil, which doesn’t help your child and doesn’t help either of you get back on track. In fact, that massive emotional reaction is probably slowing you down from getting back on track because you have to recover from the setback and the reaction.
You don’t have time for that.
A principle of goal setting is to make sure it’s realistic. Your dreams for your child are 100% possible, but you have to make sure your timeline is realistic too.
Is it reasonable to get an immobile child walking in a year? Probably not. I mean, it’s possible, but it’s more likely to happen if you give yourself 10 years.
Now I am sure you are all thinking, “But Morgan, I can’t do this for 10 years. We don’t have the financial, mental, or emotional resources to do it for 10 years.” I would actually disagree. I think you do. What you can’t do for much longer is be stressed out and hard on yourself. You can’t sustain burnout and stress for 10 years, but you can sustain joy and routine for 10 years, especially if you see your goal coming to life.
I know this may be triggering for some, but I do encourage you to take your dreams and schedule them for 10 years from now. Then ask yourself, “What needs to be true for us to make that happen?”
Here is a list of things that could shift when you make a more reasonable timeline for yourself:
Maybe you will start making a little time for yourself every day because you realize this is a marathon and not a sprint, and you need to be healthy.
You will work on your marriage and create a home environment that fosters the Doman Program, not creating tension around it.
Maybe you will look for sustainable fundraising options instead of trying to pay for everything yourself.
If you give your child a 10 year plan then you will be happier and make more sustainable choices for your families.
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