3 Ways to Stop Comparing Yourself to Other Women
"Comparison is an act of violence against the self." - Iyanla Vanzant
Today, is International Woman's Day and I find myself looking around thinking "she is doing it better than me." or "I wish I looked like her." or "I can't stand her."
We, women, are conditioned to see each other as competition and it's so hard to stop comparing ourselves to each other. Such toxic thinking, right? I have been trying to figure out how to stop my mind from going down that negative spiral so that I can empower and support my fellow sisters.
Here are 3 ways that helped me quiet that negative “inner” voice that compared me to other women. I am not perfect but I am working on it!
1. I turn the comparison into a lesson.
Often, when I see a woman and I instantly compare myself to her, there is a core wound that is being triggered. Something about her hurts my inner child. Perhaps, she has something I don't. Perhaps, she is something I will never be but was taught to revere as a child. Whenever this happens, I look within and ask myself "what can I learn here about myself? Instead of “I don’t like here because xyz."
2. I work on my self-worth daily.
The more we increase our self-worth, the less we need validation from others AKA less need for comparing ourselves to others. This is a daily practice of self-love and acceptance. The more you concentrate on this, the more you will feel love for other women because there is no need to compare. Women who are 100% confident, don't need to compare to others because they feel secure in themselves. Think of Samantha Jones, for example.
3. I put my money and time in the right place.
I support women. Sure, my mind is not 100% there and does go on comparing spirals. However, when it comes to my actions, I always show kindness and love. I always try to support other women and their businesses. I always try to help friends when needed. I put my money and time in the places I know are important. Plus, you want to treat other women as your Highest Self would treat them! So, start with this today! Even if you aren't 100% there yet, it is okay! Every little action of love and support for other women spreads the love!
I hope that this is helpful so that, as women, we can empower and support each other!
